In work as in love, rejection hurts. But being turned down for a job can actually be a good thing–if you know how to use it.
Remember rejection is normal–more so than being accepted. It’s also a great motivator to do better. Every successful person has faced rejection, and for many, their first rejection lit the fire that drove them to success.
Another way professional rejection is like romantic rejection: it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. It’s hard not to take it personally, but ultimately, it’s a subjective decision people can make for all kinds of reasons, not an objective statement of your worth. And there are plenty more fish in the sea–in fact, in the current job market, the sea is absolutely heaving with fish.
That’s why it’s so important to focus on the positives rather than lose precious time mourning what might have been. Focus on the fact that you got the interview, what you did right in the interview, and any positive feedback you received at any stage of the hiring process.
That doesn’t mean you should completely ignore what went wrong–but learn from it and use it as motivation. Ask for feedback on your interview and think about how you can apply those learnings to do better on your next application.
You can control the amount of thought and effort you put into the process and the mindset you approach it with. You can’t compel your interviewer to love you–so don’t waste time worrying about something you can’t control.
The best candidates use rejection to guide and motivate them to success. And again, as in love, if you’re true to yourself, present yourself with honesty and confidence, and have patience, eventually you’ll find someone who sees you as a dream come true.
When you work with a recruiter, we are able to get in-depth feedback from the hiring manager to find areas you may need improvement. We can then work with you on these areas and prepare you for your next interview.